Ethical dilemma #017
Would you stop dating someone because they do not have a university degree?
You like someone who works as a carpenter and treats you well. Your family thinks you should look for a partner with a university degree.
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Choose an answer before continuing.
The context
You have spent two months dating someone who works as a carpenter. You enjoy talking with them, they keep their commitments, and they have a business that supports them. You went to university and always imagined a partner who also had a degree.
When your family learns their profession, they say perhaps you should have more in common. Since then you have started having doubts, although you have found no concrete difference that prevents you from understanding each other. Today this person invites you to meet their friends. You can keep getting to know them, discuss your plans, or stop dating because they do not meet that expectation. You want to choose a relationship that works, but do not know how much your family's opinion weighs on you.
A perspective to continue
You can have preferences without assuming they all predict a good relationship. What do you need from a partner, and how do you know that characteristic guarantees it?
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What your decision prioritizes
You give more weight to how you are treated and what you share. It is still worth discussing plans that could affect a relationship.
You acknowledge a preference that matters to you. You could lose a good relationship over something that does not determine how you will be treated.
You look for a concrete difference instead of assuming one. The conversation could confirm a difficulty or show that there is none.
How other people responded
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You discover that you both want to live in the same city, have children, and save for a home. Your plans match more closely than those of previous partners with university degrees.
Now that you know this, would you keep your decision?
Keep my decision
The new information does not change what you had decided. Consider whether your original reasons still hold in light of what you have just learned.
Change my decision
What you have just learned leads you to choose a different response. Which detail changed how you see the situation?
I need to know more
The new information leaves you with an important question. What would you need to ask before acting?
0% changed their mind after learning the new context
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