Ethical dilemma #001
Would you keep dating someone who treats you well but you are not attracted to?
You have been dating someone you like as a person for three months, but you do not feel like kissing them. Today they ask if you want a relationship.
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Choose an answer before continuing.
The context
For three months, you have been dating someone who listens, keeps their promises, and treats you with affection. You enjoy your conversations, but you do not feel much desire to kiss them or be in a romantic relationship. You wonder whether attraction might develop with more time.
Today they say they are falling in love and ask if you want to be a couple. You do not want to lose someone who treats you well, but you also do not want them to believe you feel something you do not yet feel. If you accept, you might discover that the relationship grows. If you continue only to avoid hurting them, their hopes might grow while your doubts stay the same.
A perspective to continue
Treating someone well does not oblige them to fall in love. How much time would you ask for to understand your feelings, and what does the other person expect while they wait?
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What your decision prioritizes
You give your feelings time to change. The other person might take your acceptance as a certainty you do not yet have.
The other person can decide with clear information. They might also prefer to step away rather than keep waiting.
You avoid prolonging a hope you cannot promise to fulfill. You give up the chance to see whether affection could turn into attraction.
How other people responded
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The other person says they do not want to keep dating if you are still unsure. They need a relationship in which both people want to be a couple now.
Now that you know this, would you keep your decision?
Keep my decision
The new information does not change what you had decided. Consider whether your original reasons still hold in light of what you have just learned.
Change my decision
What you have just learned leads you to choose a different response. Which detail changed how you see the situation?
I need to know more
The new information leaves you with an important question. What would you need to ask before acting?
0% changed their mind after learning the new context
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